beat workplace bullies

Workplace bullies crave power. Bullying is all about power. It is time to take the power back from them and use it for yourself!

 

Bullying and harassment is behaviour that makes someone feel intimidated or offended. As a dyspraxic, you should never feel that you have to discount your feelings for being “too sensitive*”. Side rant *too sensitive is a term emotionally unintelligent people use to not process the fact that they are not acknowledging your feelings.  Harassment is unlawful under the Equality Act 2010. Bullying itself isn’t against the law, but harassment is.

Examples of harassing behaviour include:

  • Spreading malicious rumours
  • Unfair treatment
  • Picking on someone
  • Regularly undermining a competent worker
  • Denying someone’s training or promotion opportunities

Can workplace bullies ever really be stopped?

“Government workers were nearly twice as likely to report being bullied (47%) than those in the corporate world (28%).” Almost half of workers who reported having been bullied confronted the culprit to try to end the behaviour. Of those who chose this option, nearly half reported success–though an equal share said it changed nothing, and 11% said the bullying “worsened.” Thirty-two percent alerted HR to the situation, but 58% of those individuals said nothing was done in response.

How can we identify workplace bullies?

The term bullying is subjective, because we all have had different life experiences & subsequently we have different tolerance levels. But what is not subjective is when someone else uses superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force you to do what they want yo to do. The author Aryanne Oade recently wrote a book about how to become bully-proof and regain control of your life. Oade states that workplace bullying typically involves a set of experiences in the workplace.

Workplace bullies, do you have one/some? 

      • Are you subject to one-off frequent or repeated attacks that the target finds emotionally hurtful or professionally harmful?
      • Is there a deliberate attempt by the bully to undermine your ability to do your work, or to injure your reputation?
      • Has there been attempts to remove your personal power and for the bully to keep it themselves?

1. Don’t get emotional (easier said than done, I know)

It is quite alarming to think that workplace bullies actually take pleasure in emotionally manipulating people. So stay calm and rational to diffuse the situation. Our Sales soldier’s   membership gives you access to resources on resilience.    Diffusing verbal criticism can be a challenge, the steps below help our members.

workplace bullies steps to verbal criticism

2. Don’t blame yourself

Acknowledge that this is not about you; it’s about the bully. Don’t lose your confidence, or think you are incapable or incompetent. They are usually beating you at a mind game, not based on your actual work performance.

3. Be The Best Version Of You


So…letting these bullies stress you will more than likely not show your best self.  At your highest self you do your best work, you are on time, you are organised, you are more than worthy of a great job, with great people, remember that’s why you are there. No one can argue with an on point work ethic and results, which you bring in abundance. 

4. Build a support network

Instead of allowing the workplace bullies to make you retreat into your office, work on building your relationships with your co-workers so that you have support and the bullies don’t turn them against you as well (although she will try and may even be successful).

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5. Document everything

Keep a journal. Whether it is on your personal computer or in writing, of what happened when (and who witnessed it) so that if you need to escalate this problem to Human Resources. You have the information you need to make your case. Keep emails and notes. Never leave your journal in the office.

6. Seek help

If you think you’re being bullied, it’s time to start talking to others who can help you manage this situation. Try a mentor, advocate, seasoned/experienced friend, even a legal advocate who specializes in bullying and inappropriate or discriminatory behaviour in the workplace. Tread lightly when approaching your human resources department. They work for the company, not you, so you have to be careful about what you share depending on how well liked and supported your bully is within the organization. HR doesn’t have the luxury of keeping everything you say confidential so don’t treat a meeting with them like a counselling session where you should share everything you think/feel or assume that they can or will fix the problem for you.

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7. Get some confidence assertive training

It will help you deal with the stress, especially if the bullying is already affecting your physical and mental health. You have to take care of yourself.

8. Stay healthy

Maintain a healthy and balanced lifestyle outside of work to help you cope with the madness at work. Work out, get a good night’s sleep, indulge in your hobbies and eat a healthy diet.Workplace bullies are in work, if you choose to make your life more about just work then it will help you to put the situation into perspective

9. Educate yourself About Bullying Procedures

Learn everything you can about bullying, your company’s policies on inappropriate behaviour and occupational law regarding this kind of experience. The more you know, the better your chances of successfully dealing with this situation.

10. Don’t expect to change the bully.

Real behaviour change takes time. You have no control over a bully’s willingness to accept that they have a problem and to work on it. You can do your best to manage the situation, but it’s really the company’s responsibility to be observant and responsive to the needs of their workers and the general work environment. In the worst-case scenario you may need to leave your job or be prepared for a long hard fight with your bully and your employer.

11. Grab some inspiration on ways others have beat bully’s from these “celebrities”

The following list of 50+ people are people  like President Obama, former President Bill Clinton, Oscar winner Jennifer Lawrence who have been bullied, this list is to inspire you. Never let someone mess with your plans to reach your destiny! 

Final thoughts on workplace bullies

You are destined for success. There is something special about you worth talking about. And even something greater about you that makes others want to destroy it. Keep hope alive by remembering YOU ARE EXCEPTIONAL! To all the fellow dyspraxics and non dyspraxics, you are loved!

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Sources: Gov.uk |  Forbes | Huffingtonpost 

About the author

Ruth henry-ovid

As a dyspraxic, dyslexic and unofficial autistic woman I find ways to better improve my life and others who make a choice to improve their lives as well. Certified inbound marketer, coach and public speaker. Founder of @tryxavietime and @celebratedhub an avid fan of all things that help people and businesses grow!

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