How can I overcome my fear of public speaking?

Honestly I don't know. Wait... I am being honest.

Here is the thing,  what works for me or Bob (sorry Bob for mentioning your name again), may not work for you. I tend to believe competency breed confidence which in turn eradicates fear. So in plain english...the more it becomes a habit the less scary it is. But that is my truth, it may not be your truth!

Public speaking is not  hard. What is hard is quieting the noise from my brain that says I hate your voice, stop speaking now!

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I can give you 100 public speaking tips and you may still have the fear...here take the  100 public speaking tips, if you don't believe me

You could make over £100,000 in public speaking gigs, but still have the fear (I know a guy, who knows a guy)

You could be told by over 2000 people in writing that you are awesome at public speaking but still have the fear (this used to be me)

The fear is much deeper than public speaking. It goes way back to something that triggered it in the first place. An experience that you have now labelled as truth, when it is fact a lie.And what you need to do is get to the root and pull that crap out.

You need weed killer!

So what does weed killer look like?​

Weed Killer #1 : Being OK with the fact that whether someone gives you feedback constructive or otherwise that you don't care, you don't need it. That you are going to see slay when you enter the room (hey Dana). You accept people's feedback humbly but you understand this...if you live for someone's compliments than you die by there criticism. 

Weed killer #2:  You love you, more than anyone else ever will! If you don't being loving to yourself, kinder, more generous ...don't expect others too

Weed killer #3:  You've got some crap, everyone has. Be aware of it, own it and take some daily small steps to overcome some of them. The garden didn't grow weeds overnight, so don't expect your crap to disappear over night!

Wooo, why the harshness bud? Here you go, here's a picture of some random cats (less harsh?)...now let's get up and do this public speaking stuff!

About the author

Ruth henry-ovid

As a dyspraxic, dyslexic and unofficial autistic woman I find ways to better improve my life and others who make a choice to improve their lives as well. Certified inbound marketer, coach and public speaker. Founder of @tryxavietime and @celebratedhub an avid fan of all things that help people and businesses grow!

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